caterpillars chowing down

[piranha]

they look like tent caterpillars, but aren't either of the 3 species i know, and the tent is kinda meager. they eat more like leaf miners; just the top of the leaves. hard to photograph because the focus wanted to settle on the tent.

walklog:

7-25 biggs park, partial: 2.52 km, 0:51, elevation gain 187m. just a walk to walk; very humid today because warmfront moved in (no rain; wish it would).

Comments

[kalmn.livejournal.com]

i am a total wuss when it comes to bugs. could i get you to cut tag bug pictures?

on cut-tagging certain images

[pir-anha.livejournal.com]

umm.

i am sorry bug pictures squick you. i know about squicks; i have my own.

i used to be hyper-accomodating for stuff like this for people, but at some point it got too much to remember what all somebody was allergic to or wussy about or triggery, i got confused about who was what, and felt more and more restrained about what i could and couldn't talk or write about.

for myself i've tended to consider my squicks and triggers to be my problem. and when i thought about it more, it became clear to me that this ownership of domains was actually very important to me -- for example, no matter how much i might want to hug somebody, it's _their_ body, and absolutely their right to ask that i respect that. and if two lesbians want to hold hands in public, i don't care whether some christian or muslim thinks that's a sin and shudders at the thought -- it's not zir domain. and somebody's LJ is absolutely zir domain, and if zie wants to post public, unfiltered, uncut BDSM scene reports, that's for zir to decide, and no matter how squicked i am, it's my issue to deal with. that sort of thing.

i still accomodate partners and closest friends because domains and spaces overlap, and relationship dynamics might be seriously affected -- and i can handle it for a few people. but in general i don't accomodate anymore because it's too difficult to track and i don't have the energy, and philosophically don't think it is my responsibility.

long answer to a simple request. sorry. i understand if this would make you stop reading, but it's just one of those things where i am in a phase of my life that's much more fundamentally selfish than i used to be.