not so good

[piranha]

just got email from M, the paramour's brother, and J now has a secondary lung infection, is unconscious, and had to be intubated. *sigh*.

these are the times that many people of faith pray. it's probably a good thing that i no longer have that sort of faith. prayer never did make sense to me; surely an omniscient god already knows, and if zie really decides our fate on an individual basis, why would i think i could -- or even should -- affect the decision in any way? i'd probably just rail against zir, being as zie lets really bad people live. i just can't believe in the benevolence of a being who leaves people struggling for every breath -- if it's their time, just take them. if not, whatever they have to learn, this isn't usually teaching it. i know. i've watched so many of them when i worked in hospital. so, no comfort in prayer.

the only thing i know to do is keep busy, and support the people at J's side with small actions and possibly the right words, if i can find them. i hope modern medicine can pull J through.

Comments

[snippy]

I think small actions and the right words are good and helpful.

[janetmiles.livejournal.com]

I agree with snippy. And, for what it's worth, while I don't precisely pray in the direction of a deity, I do think that "energy" / moral-support / what-have-you is at worst harmless, and might be helpful. If nothing else, it seems to be helpful for the families to know that people care (even if in a vague sort of well-being of strangers way).

In that spirit, therefore, I offer Good Thoughts for the well-being of J and zir family. Including you.

[firecat]

Aw crap.

Hoping for the best possible outcome.

[janetmk.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry.

[beaq.livejournal.com]

Fooey.

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[liv]

I am sometimes a praying sort of person, but I definitely don't pray in those kinds of circumstances, when someone I care about is seriously ill (or when I've just been bereaved). Mainly because I can't pray in way that I find to be meaningful or appropriate when I'm in that kind of state. I also tend to get very uncomfortable when people ask me to pray for someone else. That doesn't fit into my way of approaching religion.

[mayaknife.livejournal.com]

J now has a secondary lung infection, is unconscious, and had to be intubated

Just popping in here to note that the unconsciousness is induced. He was fighting the ventilator (unconciously) so they had to knock him out with morphine. Prior to that he was still responsive and recognized us. So he's not in a coma, thank god.