The problem I have with it is not the playing, but the valorisation, especially when coupled with people who like to theorise the world into their bedroom.
That is different to the business of making a little walled garden for oneself and one's partner where one's demons can play without disturbing others.
For me it's a boundary issue as much as anything else. And so my reaction is "I understand that's a nice fantasy for some people, but I'd prefer not to live in that kind of world, thanks, so leave me out of it".
Another angle ganked from a recent discussion: It wasn't this fantasy time when women got consensually taken by fantastically hot, dominant men. It was a time of marital rape and "wifely duty".
I'm interested in unpacking the business of being inside or outside the fantasy when discussing it, but I'm also conscious that the fishie probably doesn't want BDSM geeking in zir journal. In any case, I've just friended your journal's feed, I'm Morag from alt.poly.
Re: valorisation w/o original context
That is different to the business of making a little walled garden for oneself and one's partner where one's demons can play without disturbing others.
For me it's a boundary issue as much as anything else. And so my reaction is "I understand that's a nice fantasy for some people, but I'd prefer not to live in that kind of world, thanks, so leave me out of it".
Another angle ganked from a recent discussion: It wasn't this fantasy time when women got consensually taken by fantastically hot, dominant men. It was a time of marital rape and "wifely duty".
I'm interested in unpacking the business of being inside or outside the fantasy when discussing it, but I'm also conscious that the fishie probably doesn't want BDSM geeking in zir journal. In any case, I've just friended your journal's feed, I'm Morag from alt.poly.