i don't think it's an either/or choice per se. for me personally, years of trying to work within feminism have left me disillusioned and cranky, and i just don't care to associate with the movement anymore. while i've not moved one inch from the "radical notion that women are people", i really, really, really couldn't abide 3 things anymore: the man hatred, the unwillingness to look closely at women's own transgressions as part of the problem, and the anti-TG sentiments, and i now prefer a label that encompasses women's rights instead of focussing solely on them. i know, those things are not universal, and are not part of any reasonable definition of feminism, but they're just too prevalent for me.

*nod* as to the domestic violence situation in other countries. definitely a problem. but i look much, much closer to home nowadays, working from my roots. because if i can't solve violence problems in my community, i can't possibly solve them in locales where i don't even understand the dynamics because i am a stranger.