I imagine your suspicions are correct wrt the futility of feminist arguments to that mind-set. I just thought it important to offer some counter-examples to the appealing idea that such attitudes are things of the past.

I'm actually pretty much OK with living among my working-class neighbors. We mostly talk about things like lawn care and the weather, and avoid politics. Sometimes we surprise each other. And once in a great while, I've been able to open someone's eyes to thinking about an issue like domestic abuse, or queer rights, in a way they hadn't thought about it before. Usually not when I'm *trying* to make a point, but by saying something in passing that causes them to ask questions, and then answering them in a friendly way.

I do call myself a feminist, proudly, but I don't presume to suggest how anyone else should self-identify.