I'm finding the whole thing very interesting to watch (you may have seen my locked posting about one aspect, I don't quite know if I'm ready to talk about this in public yet). Certainly, I see the tendency to blame people for not getting out based on 20/20 hindsight to be rather unattractive, and yet very human.
I think it helps me to realise that very few humans are really all that good at managing risk and uncertainty all that well. It's not a good thing, overall, but it makes my own situation more understandable.
Another thing, I think, is the difference between knowing intellectually, and really feeling knowing something, and I think a lot of what happening here is about the emotional understanding. There's also some interesting observations to be made about the (cultural?) need to "factually" validate emotional experiences.
Re: knowing about the potential in advance
I think it helps me to realise that very few humans are really all that good at managing risk and uncertainty all that well. It's not a good thing, overall, but it makes my own situation more understandable.
Another thing, I think, is the difference between knowing intellectually, and really feeling knowing something, and I think a lot of what happening here is about the emotional understanding. There's also some interesting observations to be made about the (cultural?) need to "factually" validate emotional experiences.