poingy visit
Mar. 30th, 2007 00:51![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
piranhawhy does LJ never save an autodraft when i actually need one? *gnarg*. i should go back to composing in an external editor.
so in the first iteration of this post i was moaning about how the one bad thing about living with the paramour is that we often have such different schedules, since zie just went to bed, and i am a few hours past my own sleep window, feel like blasting music real loud and singing along in bad japanese, and vacuuming the house.
but since the *poing* doesn't get here until mid-afternoon on saturday, there's still time for the cleanup part of that. and in the meantime there are headphones, and i just sing quietly.
not like i've been much present here lately, but from saturday on i'll be even less so, for about a week. i'm glad the paramour is actually here this time; i always like it when all three of us can geek out together, and we haven't been able to do that in a couple of years now. we might drive out to the west coast of the island for a couple of days, and maybe be in time to see a few tens of thousands of brant geese migrate. and it looks like spring is actually here finally, even though we still had frost last night -- all the early bloomers are out now.
however depressed i might get, i never forget just how incredibly awesome my partners are, and how lucky i am to have found them. occasionally i get wistful about the bloody long distance, but hey, i take it any day over the alternative.
oh, those of you going to alt.polycon -- i hope you have a wonderful time. i'll be thinking of y'all.
today's japanese manga text instantly recognized, and found very appropriate to the occasion: 俺も好きだよ (ore mo suki da yo) - i like you too!
so in the first iteration of this post i was moaning about how the one bad thing about living with the paramour is that we often have such different schedules, since zie just went to bed, and i am a few hours past my own sleep window, feel like blasting music real loud and singing along in bad japanese, and vacuuming the house.
but since the *poing* doesn't get here until mid-afternoon on saturday, there's still time for the cleanup part of that. and in the meantime there are headphones, and i just sing quietly.
not like i've been much present here lately, but from saturday on i'll be even less so, for about a week. i'm glad the paramour is actually here this time; i always like it when all three of us can geek out together, and we haven't been able to do that in a couple of years now. we might drive out to the west coast of the island for a couple of days, and maybe be in time to see a few tens of thousands of brant geese migrate. and it looks like spring is actually here finally, even though we still had frost last night -- all the early bloomers are out now.
however depressed i might get, i never forget just how incredibly awesome my partners are, and how lucky i am to have found them. occasionally i get wistful about the bloody long distance, but hey, i take it any day over the alternative.
oh, those of you going to alt.polycon -- i hope you have a wonderful time. i'll be thinking of y'all.
today's japanese manga text instantly recognized, and found very appropriate to the occasion: 俺も好きだよ (ore mo suki da yo) - i like you too!
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on 2007-03-30 12:03 (UTC)geekeliciousness
on 2007-03-30 13:46 (UTC)no subject
on 2007-03-30 12:53 (UTC)Have a great time.
I haven't paid attention to what anyone has said about LDR in awhile, but this paragraph is giving me a good deal of food for thought.
LDRs
on 2007-03-30 13:45 (UTC)i am probably not a good person to take as an example of the difficulties of LDRs -- i'm a far statistical outlier when it comes to needing face-to-face interaction and physical affection / sex with a partner; i don't need much of the first two, and none of the last. i love asynchronous communication for in-depth discussions and emotional exchanges. i like being by myself, i don't even get lonely if i am alone for months. i've been in one or another LDR for a very long time (and usually across borders); most of my adult life. i am very used to it, and i know how to maintain one well -- with the right kind of partner, that is. because anyone who'd really chafe under this wouldn't be the right kind of partner for me. i think that's why i consider myself lucky -- my relationships are good because we all work well on what needs to be worked on, but there's a lot of luck in me finding a partner who handles LDRs as well as i do (the paramour wouldn't do so well). if the living arrangements hadn't already pre-existed the *poing* and me developing an attack of the disney chemicals, we would likely do it all the same way anyway, though i would possibly be willing to switch homes every few months if needed (presuming a saner US than now).
if anything, i have to work harder on local and live-in relationships -- because of my great need for alone time they're more likely to chafe on me even if they're very good (and i couldn't wish for or imagine a better live-in partner than the paramour, but i still like it when zie goes off to the US for a 2 month contract, or on a vacation to see zir folks).