We had come from doing laps of the north part of the mall and were now heading over to the movie theatre to catch a film. To do this we needed to go through the tunnel and, as always happens, my shoulder began to tense at the idea of the long ramps I needed to negotiate. Then, the scream. My eyes shot to the source of the sound. A young boy, with autism, maybe twelve or thirteen years old, was screaming and wildly punching at his head. Beside him stood, as they were stopped still at the moment, a young man in his early twenties. The sound, it's immediacy and urgency, had stopped everyone in their tracks. Everyone staring.
I did not stare.
I don't stare at people who are in distress. I figure it's a moment where what they need from me is privacy and space. I backed my chair up. They were at the top of the far ramp and would need to be able to get by me in my chair. I waited.
Not staring does not mean not seeing.
Only moments later, when on the other side and turning a corner I had to negotiate around a woman who, after seeing me, dropped her eyes, refused to look at where her path was taking her and where mine was taking me. Just refused to look up at me or the space around herself. Averting one's gaze is not the same as not staring.
So what I noticed was the fellow who was supporting the young man was a highly skilled and clearly compassionate guy. There were several things that he did that were of note:
He wasn't even slightly embarrassed by the situation. I don't know what he was feeling inside but to all the world and for all the world he just calmly did what needed to be done to keep the young man safe. This is at odds with how I've seen many of these situations with the staff panicking and becoming flustered and embarrassed and, sometimes, looking for pity (not support) from those around them. Staff can forget sometimes that, in these situations, they are supporting an individual and teaching the public how to respond in that moment. This guy just radiated respect for the young boy who was having a really rough go.
His voice, when speaking quietly, to the young boy, was soft and showed no sign of strain. Whatever he was saying, must have been helpful because the young boy, at one point looked to him, and paused to listen to him, and then struggled to regain control. The scream began to drop in pitch and in volume. There wasn't a trace of anger in the staff's voice. There were no commands being given.
His attitude, though, was the big deal. Attitude can be seen. This staff, he communicated simply that they were there, they had a right to be there, and that what was going on didn't change that. Again, this is at odds with how I've seen this handled by others. Anger and frustration and embarrassment combine to communicate exclusionary messages to everyone around, messages that suggest that behaviours eliminate citizenry. Not this guy, he was a direct support professional, who managed to support an individual while supporting, by how he did what he did, the rights of that kid to be where he was and go through what he was going through.
Once I had space to move ahead, I put my hands to the wheels on my chair and a woman coming up the stairs that are beside the ramp, said ... (part two tomorrow)
Over the past three years, nearly a third of HBCUs have seen at least a 20 percent increase in applications, which correlates with protests over high-profile racial-violence incidents.
(Image credit: Chris Shinn/Courtesy of Spelman College)
Практика показывает, что отклик в зрительской массе по поводу картин с едой - бьет все остальное, их комментируют больше всего, а самое главное, страстнее.
Сразу замечу, что я не знаю, это у них икра или варенье какое-то. По логике должна быть икра (см. натюрморты за эту неделю), но я слабо разбираюсь в икрах, она бывает такая крупная?
Ugh, I am so annoyed about this ten a day nonsense.
Look. If someone gives you health and wellbeing advice that is not workable for you, they have given you BAD advice. I don’t care if it’s great advice for most people — the only advice worth having is advice you can follow, and anyone, especially a healthcare professional, who doesn’t tailor their advice to you — to your actual real life that you are living, and to your priorities and needs — is doing you a disservice. The problem is the advice, not you.
Similarly, if any of the following makes you feel guilty, or bad, or judged, or ashamed, then that’s on me. That’s on how I’ve written and presented it, that’s on how I’ve misunderstood, ignored or not thought about some of my potential audience. It’s not a fault in you.
But — if and only if you would like it — here is some information and advice that I hope will help you make informed choices that work for you, rather than feeling defeated and confused by all the conflicting messages out there.
( On food, physical activity, smoking, alcohol )
O, 'tis quite entirely the most agreeable of things to come at last to my darlings and to see the family all drawn up before the door to greet me, quite brings tears to my eyes. Indeed I am in some fear they will fall when my precious Flora comes up to me with a bunch of flowers and a kiss, for I am ever in fears she will go show coquettish and distant.
Josh comes hug me as he is ever wont, the dear creature, and the girls come also and embrace me very hearty.
I go kiss my best of wild girls Eliza very formal and proper upon the cheek, shake hands with Josiah and with Harry, that is now become quite a young man - his voice no longer goes to cracks and squeaks and I discern that by now he may need shave at least once of a se’ennight. Quintus also desires shake hands instead of being kisst like a girl or a baby, at which I sigh a little.
I also go shake hands with Miss N-, that is looking very well.
We go in to the fine parlour and there comes tea, and we talk of what we have been about these weeks and the visits we have made, and the friends we have seen &C&C. And my little jewel comes sit upon my knee and desires be wombatts that rub their noses together to demonstrate amity. Sure she grows a fine girl.
'Tis quite entire the finest thing.
And in due course Eliza says she confides that Aunty C- would desire go wash away the dust of travel and change and dares say Sophy has already got her trunks unpackt.
I daresay, says I, for she is a good diligent creature.
So I go to my fine reserv’d chamber with its exceeding large bed, and while I am washing comes in my belov’d wild girl and we embrace very warm.
Oh, my darling, says she, as she rests her head upon my shoulder, we have misst the lovelyest of C-s so very much. 'Tis so hard that we must be apart, and we must go about and hear people that know you not talk of Lady B-, and even when 'tis praise, rather than some ignorant gossip, somehow 'tis as if they talk of a stranger.
I kiss her hair and stroke her and wish I might show to her how much I too have misst my darlings, but 'tis not the time.
She straightens up and pats her hair and says, sure 'tis foolish in her. But she fears that one day they will be in company and one will say that Lady B- goes marry such and such a one, the lucky fellow –
Here indeed is a foolish wild girl, says I. Do you ever hear such an on-dit you may know that whoever 'tis recounts it knows naught of the matter.
O, sure, do I be reasonable I know that did our dearest go marry, we should be the first to hear, and there would be some very excellent reason why she did it, and –
Indeed there is naught I may do but kiss her very warm and assure her that my darlings are ever first in my heart, and that sure there is a deal of difference 'twixt occasional granting some pleasing fellow my favours are my dear ones not by me, and going marry.
And there is no young woman that is quite entire in love with Lady B- that tempts you?
Indeed not! I cry.
She sighs and says she knows not why that thought should fret her so.
(Indeed neither do I.)
We tidy ourselves a little before we rejoin the company.
She adds that there has been sent on for me by Hector some letters that he thought I should desire see – the note said he had kept back a deal, but was in supposition that I would greatly desire those from friends and those in whom I take a particular interest, and would rather have 'em now than when I eventual return to Town.
O. says I, 'tis most extreme thoughtfull in him. For I quite starve for news of friends, tho’ the orphanage ladies &C may go whistle.
So I go to where she has the packet in her desk in her family room, and glance at 'em quickly before we go dine, and there is one from the antipodes that I must quite immediate at least skim thro’ to see is all well – or was, when dear Abby writ it – and o, I cry, has another little girl, that they call after her, is that not charming? –
But the others I daresay may wait upon the morn, for at that moment comes Patty to say that Miss Flora goes beg for her sleepy wombatt.
So I go to my little darling, that rather than go be sleepy desires convey to me a deal of news and chatters exceedingly upon many matters. But at length we lye down as sleepy wombatts are wont, and kiss and snuggle and I see her eyes close and she sleeps. O, she is indeed the most precious of my jewels.
And then I go join the family for dinner, and hear that Mr D- and Miss A- are now marry’d, and he has been persuad’d to take her upon a wedding-journey, and meanwhile they go furbish up a house where the couple may reside, for his former lodgings are by no means suit’d to wedd’d life.
Without I appear to scrutinize her, I look towards Bess, that seems entire unconcern’d at this matter and is about telling Harry about her visit to D- Chase. I hope she may be past her girlish liking for Mr D-.
Josh, says Josiah with somewhat of a frown, have you brought that mongoose to table again?
No, says Josh, all injur’d innocence, I left him in my bedchamber –
- but, he goes on, I am like to think he has come to contrive to open the door and escape and has come seek me.
Well, says Josiah, that cannot maintain his look of severity very long, sure we owe the mongoose a very great deal – he looks sideways towards me – and therefore I will not say must go out into the shed with the rest of the menagerie or be lockt in a cage, but indeed, should not come to the dinner table.
Perchance, says Harry, Josh should go have his dinner in the menagerie?
Eliza sighs and says, sure she dares say Josh would quite delight to do so: but she confides that he would be about feeding his own supper to the wombatt or the badger; and besides, this having dinner together is intend’d to inculcate civility of manners and good behaviour, so that you will not be suppos’d savages when you go into company.
Bess suddenly gives a great snort and starts to giggle and says, was you not there, Aunty C-, when Mr Geoffrey M- and Lady Emily commenc’d upon throwing bread-rolls at one another?
La, says I, I was not.
Bess then says, o, no, you were not, 'twas when we pique-niqu’d while practising archery.
I sigh and say that indeed the manners of the aristocracy may show exceeding liberal when they are amongst themselves but one should not take that as a model.
After dinner in the parlour Meg goes play us some pieces she has lately learnt upon the piano.
And then at last I am to bed, and my very best belov’d darlings come to me there, and sure 'tis an immense long time, or seems so, since last we were in triangle, but sure we have not forgot the way of matters and 'tis all most exceeding agreeable.
When our first hungers are sated we lye entwin’d together exchanging little kisses and fond endearments and little matters of gossip, and then I mind me of a matter and say to Eliza, sure, my dearest, did you not go prepare Lady D- for what she might anticipate in childbirth?
Why, says she, I did so, for they were brought up, as I apprehend, by a spinster aunt, that was oblig’d to prevail upon some marry’d friend of her own to undertake that business preliminary to marriage that should be a mother’s duty. So really, she had very little apprehension of what might come forth: tho’ Lady P- is such a one for talking of ordeals and horrors, 'tis no sound preparation I confide.
But you led her to apprehend, did you not, I continue, that there may be pain, and that may continue some considerable while, &C? For sure Lady D- seems to me to be behaving like unto some lady that had no expectation at all of what the matter would be like, and was entire shockt.
Why, I convey’d the matter to her in such detail that I fear Lord D- would have been mightyly shockt, but indeed, one has heard that there are carefully brought up young women that have no comprehension of how the babe goes emerge. And what is the usual way of things and what is not, minding on what you told me about poor Martha S-.
Indeed, says I, I could think of none better to instruct her unless 'twas Mrs Black. So I am in somewhat of a puzzle over her state of mind. I sigh.
My darlings put their arms about me and say, 'tis quite the prettyest thing the concern the lovelyest of C-s has over troubles among her acquaintance, but they should desire that she would give a little attention to those that are crept into her bed with designs upon her virtue.
La, says I, sure I do not think I have any virtue left about me, for there was a wild girl did this unto me, and a Grand Turk that did that, and sure I am entire fallen by now. But indeed, since I discover that the heyday in their blood is by no means yet tame, I will be about falling a little further.
Прес-центр штабу АТО: за минулу добу зафіксовано 49 обстрілів, 4 військових поранено, 1 травмовано
Пророссийские боевики в очередной раз обстреляли Авдеевку из тяжелого оружия, запрещенного Минскими договоренностями. Обстрелы со стороны боевиков привели в Авдеевке к разрушению и пожарам в жилых домах.
25.02 боевики 32 раза обстреляли украинских военных, двое бойцов ранены, один травмирован. Боевики так называемой "ЛНР" неподалеку от населенного пункта Екатериновка совершили очередную вооруженную провокацию в отношении представителей Специальной мониторинговой миссии ОБСЕ. США назвали нападение на наблюдателей ОБСЕ "вызовом" для Минских соглашений
В пятницу вечером, 24 февраля, в СМИ появилась информация о взрыве в жилом районе Донецка, предположительно взорвался полевой склад боеприпасов артиллерии российских террористов.
СБУ разоблачила механизм финансирования т.н. «ЛНР» правительством России. В частности, «народная милиция ЛНР» получила более 820 000 000 рублей, «МГБ ЛНР» почти сто миллионов р. Оперативники спецслужбы выяснили, что значительные средства из российских поступлений используются главарями террористов на финансирование пропаганды против Украины
во время своего визита в зону АТО на этой неделе Савченко подстрекала десантников, ведущих бои в районе донецкого аэропорта, бросить свои позиции и идти свергать «злочинну владу» в Киеве.
Правительство Нидерландов должно обнародовать дополнительную информацию по сбитому над Донбассом МН17
почему речь Порошенко в Мюнхене не могла быть другой: Мы должны напоминать, что зло – это зло, а агрессия – это агрессия. И пока это не изменится, мы не имеем права идти на поводу у тех, кому наши беды не близки.
The New York Times опубликовало расследование, которое доказывает: россияне действительно были серьезными игроками на нидерландском референдуме и действовали сообща с евроскептическими партиями.
Новости Крымнаша. Выпуск#831 за 25.02.2017 . Земельные документы, выданные в Крыму после аннексии, не будут признаны Украиной. Владелец крымских зоопарков (который хотел на нас боевых львов выпускать в 14 году) совсем запутался
Дела и проблемы Межигорья сегодня
Информационные войска России и «фейковые» новости. Основная и наиболее опасная часть – это те, кто сегодня работают на федеральных каналах ТВ. Что касается МИДа, то он тоже выступает, в основном, как своеобразное подразделение партии войны .
Что надо знать о российской оппозиции . А мы уже давно это заметили
Волонтерские дела. Отчет о покупке квадрокоптера. Собираем на следующий.
в Днепре штурмовали больницу им. Мечникова. Желающие сдать кровь
So the name, ladies and gentlebeings, is... Essence of Eclectic. I think it's very me. I've spent yesterday and today working on various logo ideas, and I have come up with a design I rather like.
( cut for images and poll )
From the Quotation of the day mailing list, 2017-01-21:
"It will take some time before the number of people watching on TV is revealed, but some viewers must have had that eerie feeling that a perverse revival of Dynasty was under way. The incoming president gave a speech livid with populist fury, an indictment of "the establishment" and yet, in his person, demeanour and in reality, he confirms that the establishment, the force of true power remains anchored in old white men with a comb-over and decades-younger wife." -- John Doyle, television critic, on the Trump inauguration.
(submitted to the mailing list by Mike Krawchuk)
Iceland really is beautiful. And if it wasn't for Iceland, there wouldn't be an American Gods...
I had some really fun times. The BBC radio interviews were all so different and all so much fun. My Royal Festival Hall event was a delight to do, and that lunchtime I showed up as Children's Laureate Chris Riddell's secret guest on the same stage, and I got to meet Posy Simmonds and turned immediately into a starstruck teen.
Chris stayed and drew while I spoke and was interviewed that night:
I liked this James Lovegrove review from the Financial Times: https://www.ft.com/content/42fad176-
Sarah Lyall interviewed me and came to the New York event for the New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/02/12/
Here's me talking to the New York Times Book Review Podcast: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/02/17/
Michael Dirda starts his review of Norse Mythology in a way that sent my stomach lurching, and the review itself was something of a roller-coaster ride (but the kind you are glad you have taken):
And I'm now realising that if I keep linking to reviews, interviews and such on either side of the Atlantic this blog will never end...
So here is the cover of a recent Australian Sunday supplement: do not let its 1977 cover date fool you.
On public events: If you go and look at Where's Neil you will see the public appearances I'm doing this year. Of the events in Spring, Seattle is sold out and so is Santa Rosa and Boston, Costa Mesa is almost sold out, Mesa AZ is going fast, and there are... still lots and lots of tickets in San Diego.
I don't know why this is. However, if you fancy coming to see me talk and read and answer questions and such, and you can't get in to any of the other evenings, San Diego is a two hour train ride from LA and they even have wifi on the train, andit's less than three hour's flying time from Seattle. And right now, there are seats. ("San Diego. It's not just for ComicCon.")
It's free to the Bard community, $25 a ticket for the rest of the world. Info here: http://fishercenter.bard.edu/calendar/
Which reminds me:
AMERICAN GODS now has a broadcast date: the first episode of the first season will be broadcast on Starz on April 30th in the US, and be watchable digitally too, via Starz on Amazon Prime.
I've been appointed a United Nations Goodwill Ambassador for Refugees. I even have a certificate. (It is blue and the same size as a passport.) I'm not sure what this means in real terms: I'm going to keep doing the work I've been doing since 2013 to draw attention to refugees, to raise awareness and knowledge, and to help them.
I was disappointed to learn I won't get diplomatic immunity from parking tickets*.
Here's the Facebook Live interview announcement, in which I am interviewed by Jonathan Ross and answer questions from the people watching. The interview begins about 4 minutes and 30 seconds in.
*Joke. Weak joke. UN Goodwill Ambassadors pay their own parking tickets, air tickets, hotel bills etc.
I've been reading quite a bit, here and there -
- reading the book Nation by Terry Pratchett, and thinking (so far, three chapters in) that it's very good, but erratic and a bit patchy.
- have read the book Olive, by Mrs Craik, which interesting as a record of thinking on various matters (women's art being marginalised/suppressed, physical "deformity" cutting a woman out of the marriage market, race, religion) - but is not particularly worth much as a novel.
- reading The Bad-Ass Librarians of Timbuktu, which sketches out much fascinating material, so far, but isn't really catching fire (bad metaphor, in the circumstances).
This was also a test-post on cross-posting to LJ; it seems to have worked fine.
I am so so glad we went to see it. It's a really great film, with the excitement of SPACE and MATHS and ENGINEERING against the clock, clever use of contemporary footage, heartwarming scenes of family and friendship, dramatically climaxing with John Glenn's flight orbiting the earth and returning safely. (I spent half the film thinking Chris Evans' looks had gone off a bit, but it turned out John Glenn was being played by a completely different handsome blond man.) Also, because the film is focused on three black women working as computers for NASA during this period, there is a great deal of matter-of-fact depiction of racism and sexism. I appreciated that it was so matter-of-fact, that the film is not about Overcoming Racism, it's about Getting Astronauts Into Space, and the racism and the ways in which it made Getting Astronauts Into Space harder is just part of the story.
I also cried a lot, because it is an amazing film, and I have come out with a burning wish to learn more about Dorothy Vaughan, who is shown teaching herself FORTRAN from a textbook, and ( spoilers )
I'm hoping to take Charles to see it, if I can make the time to do so before it leaves cinemas.
Last night I was finally able to see Moonlight (and delighted to know it had a packed screening at a mainstream theater here) and it was so, so wonderful, and I haven't been recording any of the things I've watched and liked lately, so, I'm going to try and break that pattern.
Also - as usual, I'm terrible at reviewing things I like, and I'm happy to say Moonlight isn't exactly esoteric, so I'm basically just going to flail and vomit feels and various thoughts under the cut.
( Moonlight )
Z Nation is a post-apocalyptic zombie show that has some intensely dark episodes but is also incredibly goofy and it somehow (mostly) manages to navigate that goofy/dark mix with aplomb. It does this because the characters are grounded in their emotional truth, and they are a-m-a-z-i-n-g. Roberta Warren is in my top tier of All Time characters. This is her:
But also look at these losers:
And that doesn't even have Sun or Hector, both of who joined in season 3. Or Citizen Z! Or Kaya!
I ended up absorbing Z Nation by doing computer stuff while AHH watched it in the same room until all of a sudden I was invested. I went back and started watching from the beginning and now it sits next to Prison Break in the fannish corner of my heart for "absurd but dearly beloved and actually good shows that I trust not to hurt me." It's a very specific corner of my fannish heart, and these are basically the only two shows there. Hee.
( More under here, spoilers for the series )
I need other people in this fandom with me because I still have to finish this Dragon Age fic and cannot be writing stuff right now. Although the show is really gory a LOT of the time so I know it's not for everyone. (But: multiple POC characters! Warren starts out as a sidekick and BECOMES the heroic leader and gets to experience womanpain! Gorgeous lighting! Ridiculous slow-mo!) I hope my vid snares a couple of you. Hee.
But! Guess what: their domain (justwantprivacy dot org) has a non-concealed owner! And that owner is Joseph Backholm of Lynnwood.
Joseph Backholm of Lynnwood is president of the Family Policy Institute of Washington (FPIW), a long-time right-wing fundamentalist evangelical political group, and a legally-distinct but nonetheless listed affiliate of the Family Research Council, a decades-old anti-LGBT hate group spun off of Focus on the Family for specifically political actions. (You can find FPIW on FRC's state affiliates page here: http://www.frc.org/state-policy-
FPIW were previously behind Referendum 74, which asked voters to reject our then-recently-passed marriage equality laws.
Joseph Backholm himself used to be with the similarly anti-queer and anti-woman's-rights ADF ("Alliance Defending Freedom," formerly "Alliance Defence Fund"), of Scottsdale, Arizona, which may be best known to larger audiences as supporting law making LGBT people illegal.
They also have ties to anti-LGBT/fundamentalist political groups such as the Pacific Justice Institute, the Thomas More Law Center, the Heritage Foundation, and the (dead?) "ex-gay" group Exodus International. The Heritage Foundation also supports states' rights to make LGBT people illegal.
So if, you know, you thought this was anything other than an attempt to peel off layers of the alliance to weaken the entire coalition so they can pick all of us off one layer at a time? It's not. That's exactly what it is.
Registry Registrant ID: CR212357711
Registrant Name: Joseph Backholm
Registrant Street: 16108 Ash Way
Registrant City: Lynnwood
Registrant State/Province: Washington
Registrant Postal Code: 98036
Registrant Country: US
Registrant Phone: +1.4256080242
Registrant Phone Ext:
Registrant Fax Ext:
Registrant Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Registry Admin ID: CR212357713
(If you go to Google Maps streetview, you'll find their office, facing the parking lot in back, suite 113.)
White supremacist Steve Bannon brought in Sebastian Gorka to the White House staff. Gorka has extensive ties to anti-Semetic groups back in Hungary. Also in Breitbart alumni, we have a pro-Trump megadonor who is part owner of Breitbart News empire. And Bannon promises daily war against the press and everybody not part of the Trumpian movement.
Fox News has been holding up a convicted felon as some sort of Swedish government security official. He's not. But I doubt that'll sink in - as another story shows, people still mad (at CPAC) over alleged Obama holidays and spending refuse to believe the numbers incurred by Mr. Trump. They just flatly reject the data.
Churches are putting together immigrant protection cells - safe houses, transport networks, etc. A few other immigrant stories, too, including another legal Visa holder ejected at the border.
The White House told DHS to justify Trump's travel ban - their report did the opposite. So it was suppressed, then leaked.
Where is Secretary of State Rex Tillerson? He's been invisible. Particularly to the press.
Kansas is having an intra-Republican fight over the fiscal implosion caused by the polices Trump and Ryan intend to implement nationally. It's blown the budget and job growth fell and is below national averages. Governor Brownback doesn't care and is fighting the hardliner side; they fell three votes short of overriding his veto.
Trump is reportedly going to throw out more anti-environment EOs this coming week; targeting clean water rules, in particular.
This is what passes for a quiet day these days.
( It's February 26, 2017; this is the news )